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  • BountifulEggnog [she/her]
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    5 months ago
    dysphoria (but I'm actually feeling good right now)

    Chat I am so big/cooked. I was talking with some lovely people earlier about shoe size and its so over for me. I knew my feet were big but apparently my idea of "very small" (I remember wearing bigger at like 11/12) is actually big for women. Basically its all over. T has made my body so incredibly large.

    Supposedly this large size doesn't effect passing but I don't buy it. Also just being small and cute would be kinda nice idk.

    I know this sounds like I'm sad/crying or whatever but I'm actually just bridget-vibe which is very weird but welcome. Uh also sorry if I've posted about my size recently I don't remember what I post vs what I think about posting at all and my sense of time is fucked.

    • khizuo [ze/zir]
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      5 months ago

      Tall girls are cute. End of post.

      Eggnog I'm so excited to see you blossom as the beautiful girl you are, you have no idea.

    • TerminalEncounter [she/her]
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      5 months ago
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      Feet shrink with hrt! Not much, but they do. Mine went down about a half a shoe size. Also I was buying shoes too large, grew up poor so you always needed lots of room to grow into em and just kept doing that lol, so I was comfortable a full 1 shoe size down from pre hrt. It's hard to shop for cute womens size 12 shoes, but online is easier.

      • BountifulEggnog [she/her]
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        5 months ago

        I am excited about that!

        I just wish half a size was even close to what I need trans-sad That does not even get me on the women's section of this chart. But yes hopefully online will work out for me for actually finding them.

        • TerminalEncounter [she/her]
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          5 months ago

          See this is why my mom wants me to open a tall girl store, I said I'd call it Dysphoria (kinda sounds chic if you don't know what it means), just dresses that actually hit where they're supposed to - no more maxi dresses hitting mod calf, no more minis being lucky enough to cover my... you know - shoes that actually fit people beyond size 10, only place I found that sold them irl was Nordstroms and they shut down like 3 weeks later. Bracelets! That actually fit right! Cmon.

          • BountifulEggnog [she/her]
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            5 months ago

            Well if you do, remember to DM me the city and I'll see if I can stop by some time.

    • ashinadash [she/her]
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      5 months ago

      Having to tell people that tall women are cute madeline-bruh But people do not look at a really tall woman and go "woah she is trans", else female basketball players would lead a hellish existence. Shoe sizing blows but it also blows for me, and I'm not that tall so...

      • BountifulEggnog [she/her]
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        5 months ago
        uh being a little negative about tall women (mostly directed at this tall woman)

        madeline-sadeline Sorry about that. Just wish I was small and cute sometimes, yaknow. tbh I don't really see tall women (or at least this one) being cute I guess. Maybe other positive things but cute doesn't feel like one of 'em.

        And uh, you say that but I'm not so sure. Definitely has to make it harder.

        agony-shivering Yes shoe sizing my god. Already at the point where there aren't as many men's shoes that fit. I'm going to have so few options ohnoes and probably order online and pray for the best.

        • ashinadash [she/her]
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          5 months ago
          negativity lesgoooooo

          "Small and cute" is such a common desire among transfemmes, lol. No need to apologise ✨ Uh why not though? Disregarding this is BULLSHIT, I think the tall bottom is an underrated category, Idk flipping the height script can be fun. But also tall (and sometimes broad shouldered waow!) women are beautiful, secretly. When I was younger I had a crush on this curly haired lady who was 6'2", so like no, I disagree and will do battle about it. Tall is grace, shit even supermodels are tall as fuck. They pass, people do not assume they are trans.

          Yeah my condolences about shoe sizing, it is criminal that there aren't larger ones.

          • BountifulEggnog [she/her]
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            5 months ago
            negativity bad though

            idk, I feel like being "cute" is linked with being small (short and skinny-ish). Glad I'm not somehow the only transfem with that in mind ohnoes

            tall (and sometimes broad shouldered waow!) women are beautiful

            Sure. Beautiful and cute are different though. Maybe I will be beautiful, or pretty, or something. But cute? idk that's a tough one. I'm also not trying to battle with you.

            people do not assume they are cis

            exactly

            hehe~

            Also its not just about finding shoes that fit, I also just want to be smaller.

            • ashinadash [she/her]
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              5 months ago
              yeah but I enjoy talking this stuff over 'cause I'm weird

              Uh it's not too bad, sorry. Making a girl a head taller than you blush is adorable, cute is almost more a demanour or vibe than anything else. Being tall does not preclude being cute, this is a weird thing.

              I WILL BATTLE YOU madeline-angry But if you wanna get this fine-grained I'm gonna need you to get more specific about what "cute" means to you, for me. If it means being shy and coy, uh Idk, what is your perception of "cute"?

              Yea I know you do, so many trans women wanna shrink and disappear it seems...

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              • BountifulEggnog [she/her]
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                5 months ago
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                That's like, acting cute. Looking cute is like, looking young and small. I want someone to be able to pick me up and pin me against a wall crush Be a smol bean shy girl who people look at and think "aw". The little spoon that just gets all wrapped up in someone's arms. And yea being shy and coy and all that is part of it too. Just being all small, and fem, and cute. Yaknow?

                Hey right now I only want the shrink part.

                • TerminalEncounter [she/her]
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                  5 months ago

                  You, my dear, are going to be one cute af subby girl.

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                  Like the kind of girl that makes me want to do her makeup while I'm straddling her and chiding her for blushing or whimpering. Or the kind where I would pick out her clothes to wear for a night out. Or the kind that brightens up and has a shy smile when she's told "wow, you've been such a good girl!" I'm not even gonna talk about the beautiful eyes and begging for stuff, we don't need to get into that at all, that's all accessory anyway.

                  You're going to be fine lol

                  • BountifulEggnog [she/her]
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                    5 months ago

                    Holy shit hyperflush Literally please I would do anything for someone to do this to me. God I need to find somebody so bad.

                • ashinadash [she/her]
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                  5 months ago
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                  looking young and small.

                  Trying to decide which cool feminist author from the 90s to recommend you makima-think bell hooks? Judith Butler? 'Cause uh...

                  I find it interesting that much of this relies on the perception of others, but my initial read was correct - "femme subby bottom core" lmao. You can still get picked up and pinned against a wall, in fact it's fun with someone taller frankly. It's cool and interesting when your sub is taller than you, honestly. And being tall does not preclude little spoon enjoyment, sheesh. My wife is shorter than me by a fair bit; if I wanna lay on her chest, I just do, and I tangle my longass legs around hers. She is a great bigspoon because she's soft but also built af crush

                  The "shrink and disappear" is an Orange Book reference basil-anxious-smile sorry

                  • BountifulEggnog [she/her]
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                    5 months ago
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                    'Cause uh...

                    I don't know exactly what you are implying here but I do feel like I should be able to look however I want.

                    I genuinely do not believe I could be pinned against a wall, unless I also find someone who's big like me. And tbh I like women shorter then me (I mean you probably could have worked that out on your own).

                    being tall does not preclude little spoon enjoyment, sheesh.

                    But I'll still feel all big kitty-cri idk maybe I'm too worried about how I'll feel in the future. I just want to be a lil smaller cri

                    Ah, didn't get that, sorry. Is relatable though.

              • 🎀 Seryph (She/Her)@lemmygrad.ml
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                5 months ago
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                cute is almost more a demanour or vibe than anything else.

                Yeah cuteness is a mindset as much as it is a particular aesthetic. I could (and do!) pull off being super pretty, refined, and elegant, but I can also pull off cute. And sometimes I do both at once if I'm in the right mindspace at the time. And I found my ex adorable partly due to how unrefined she looked sometimes. Even if it wasn't traditionally cute it was super cute.

            • 🎀 Seryph (She/Her)@lemmygrad.ml
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              5 months ago
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              Traditional conceptions of cuteness might be, but just like how conventional beauty standards aren't the only way to be beautiful conventional cuteness is not the only way to be cute. I may be taller than most cis women but I'm utterly adorable because I've got the right mindset for it and an eye for cute styles.

          • magi [null/void]M
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            5 months ago

            tall bottom is an underrated category

            Smol dommes too don't forget those too lea-finger-guns

            Shoe sizing, it is criminal that there aren't larger ones.

            tbf everyone has sizing issues at some point even the cissies..

          • TerminalEncounter [she/her]
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            5 months ago
            cringe horny

            omg but tall bottoms??? panting Or even better, tall tops - BUT they're super subby... the secret category to be protected at all costs

          • BountifulEggnog [she/her]
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            5 months ago

            I know you are kinda ribbing me, which is fair I guess, but no I haven't seen any women close to my size I'd describe as cute I've barely seen any women close to my size though my god. It is a shame, I'd probably like my body more if I did.

            • TerminalEncounter [she/her]
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              5 months ago

              Aww, too bad, I'm serious tall women can be cute! I swear. Cute, to me, is more like a mindset than a rigid set of physical features - plus if you're tall everything is still in proportion for your body/face, you're just... tall.

              I mean in terms of physical features, a cherubic round face is cute, big eyes are cute, long lashes, but that's all possible on a tall person (even a tall man believe it or not). But also, I knew a (trans) girl who never learned to ride a bike but was willing to try and learn - talk about cute!!!

              • BountifulEggnog [she/her]
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                5 months ago

                lea-think That's fair, I definitely could act cute.

                Maybe. Once I start being able to buy girlstuff I'll have to ask what can make me look cute. I already have some things in mind but I'm sure there's more.

    • Tomboymoder [she/her, pup/pup's]
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      5 months ago

      Probably a good thing to make peace with (or whatever bridget-vibe means)
      instead of hyperfixating on it like me and developing BDD lea-breakdown

      • BountifulEggnog [she/her]
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        5 months ago

        I don't know if I've made peace with it, I am simply in a good mood right now.

        yea Hope you can worry about it less, I know how much that sucks.

        • magi [null/void]M
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          5 months ago

          I've met a load of women far taller than me. Some were taller than some men too