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  • BountifulEggnog [she/her]
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    5 months ago
    negativity bad though

    idk, I feel like being "cute" is linked with being small (short and skinny-ish). Glad I'm not somehow the only transfem with that in mind ohnoes

    tall (and sometimes broad shouldered waow!) women are beautiful

    Sure. Beautiful and cute are different though. Maybe I will be beautiful, or pretty, or something. But cute? idk that's a tough one. I'm also not trying to battle with you.

    people do not assume they are cis

    exactly

    hehe~

    Also its not just about finding shoes that fit, I also just want to be smaller.

    • ashinadash [she/her]
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      5 months ago
      yeah but I enjoy talking this stuff over 'cause I'm weird

      Uh it's not too bad, sorry. Making a girl a head taller than you blush is adorable, cute is almost more a demanour or vibe than anything else. Being tall does not preclude being cute, this is a weird thing.

      I WILL BATTLE YOU madeline-angry But if you wanna get this fine-grained I'm gonna need you to get more specific about what "cute" means to you, for me. If it means being shy and coy, uh Idk, what is your perception of "cute"?

      Yea I know you do, so many trans women wanna shrink and disappear it seems...

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      • BountifulEggnog [she/her]
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        5 months ago
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        That's like, acting cute. Looking cute is like, looking young and small. I want someone to be able to pick me up and pin me against a wall crush Be a smol bean shy girl who people look at and think "aw". The little spoon that just gets all wrapped up in someone's arms. And yea being shy and coy and all that is part of it too. Just being all small, and fem, and cute. Yaknow?

        Hey right now I only want the shrink part.

        • TerminalEncounter [she/her]
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          5 months ago

          You, my dear, are going to be one cute af subby girl.

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          Like the kind of girl that makes me want to do her makeup while I'm straddling her and chiding her for blushing or whimpering. Or the kind where I would pick out her clothes to wear for a night out. Or the kind that brightens up and has a shy smile when she's told "wow, you've been such a good girl!" I'm not even gonna talk about the beautiful eyes and begging for stuff, we don't need to get into that at all, that's all accessory anyway.

          You're going to be fine lol

          • BountifulEggnog [she/her]
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            5 months ago

            Holy shit hyperflush Literally please I would do anything for someone to do this to me. God I need to find somebody so bad.

        • ashinadash [she/her]
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          looking young and small.

          Trying to decide which cool feminist author from the 90s to recommend you makima-think bell hooks? Judith Butler? 'Cause uh...

          I find it interesting that much of this relies on the perception of others, but my initial read was correct - "femme subby bottom core" lmao. You can still get picked up and pinned against a wall, in fact it's fun with someone taller frankly. It's cool and interesting when your sub is taller than you, honestly. And being tall does not preclude little spoon enjoyment, sheesh. My wife is shorter than me by a fair bit; if I wanna lay on her chest, I just do, and I tangle my longass legs around hers. She is a great bigspoon because she's soft but also built af crush

          The "shrink and disappear" is an Orange Book reference basil-anxious-smile sorry

          • BountifulEggnog [she/her]
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            5 months ago
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            'Cause uh...

            I don't know exactly what you are implying here but I do feel like I should be able to look however I want.

            I genuinely do not believe I could be pinned against a wall, unless I also find someone who's big like me. And tbh I like women shorter then me (I mean you probably could have worked that out on your own).

            being tall does not preclude little spoon enjoyment, sheesh.

            But I'll still feel all big kitty-cri idk maybe I'm too worried about how I'll feel in the future. I just want to be a lil smaller cri

            Ah, didn't get that, sorry. Is relatable though.

            • ashinadash [she/her]
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              5 months ago
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              Implicator imaginator I happen to agree which is why I didn't like, go hard, but this whole "you can only be cute if you are small and youthful looking and demure and shy", I think it is a thing, some people have written about it is all. I think it's worth examining even a little, Idk.

              I genuinely do not believe I could be pinned against a wall,

              Why not?? Only takes meeting someone a head shorter but twice as strong as you. On estrogen your strength will wane, your limbs may slim. My wife is 5'1", I am 5'7" and she doesn't have any issues. Also liking women shorter than you is fun, I love a partner who is shorter than me kel-bliss

              I don't think you will, if your partner is stronger than you for wall-pinning purposes she may also end up more substantial than you, and so despite your height you can still be the slender waifish little spoon to the muscle gf. You can become "smaller", depending on how you define it, on hormones. Height is just one aspect power-genius

              Yeah sorry for shitposting badeline-anxious

              • BountifulEggnog [she/her]
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                5 months ago
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                demure

                Ooh that's a good word to put on my list of things I want to be. idk, maybe. I don't want people to make me feel like a creep for what I want to look like/act like.

                Only takes meeting someone a head shorter but twice as strong as you.

                When you say this, it actually sounds like you are being ironic. There are incredibly few women twice as strong as I am. (light hearted) did you like, forget that I'm big and pre hrt? But I suppose we will see.

                Yes, I do need to become slender. Much happier when I was slender.

                • ashinadash [she/her]
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                  5 months ago
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                  Demure? Fair play...

                  This is not ironic, also again HRT can noodle-ify you. Idk if you've worked out or whatever? Do you really think you're that much stronger than the average woman? Silly egg meow-petted Since you intend to go on hormones that'll only get easier too.

                  • BountifulEggnog [she/her]
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                    5 months ago

                    Well I look forward to being turned into a noodle even if I have some concerns.

                    And idk, kinda. Not that I'm twice as strong as any woman or anything. But with how big a difference T makes + just being kinda big yea I think I'm stronger then most women? When I read women talking about it they all seem like they feel a lot weaker then most men? Isn't that a big reason women are so worried about safety things, being weaker? I know that's one of my big concerns surrounding safety.

                    Yea I'm sure it will.

            • magi [null/void]M
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              5 months ago
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              When you find someone who treats you right a lot of these worries will go out the window

            • 🎀 Seryph (She/Her)@lemmygrad.ml
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              5 months ago
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              I genuinely do not believe I could be pinned against a wall

              You absolutely could, this is more about power dynamics than anything else. As Ash mentioned someone shorter but stronger totally could as well.

              • BountifulEggnog [she/her]
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                5 months ago
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                I just realized I did a terrible, terrible job explaining what I meant here. Wow I am a stupid girl. I was meaning like up with my feet off the ground. But because of tall (and kinda heavy) that would be harder. Someone could not lift me off the ground up to eye level.

                But yes that probably would actually work and be fine. Once again eggnog fails to communicate properly 😔

                • 🎀 Seryph (She/Her)@lemmygrad.ml
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                  5 months ago
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                  Lack of imagination on your part, sure you might not be able to be picked up, but consider the alternative, someone could pull you down to their eye level, or hold you down in an embrace to keep you closer. There are plenty of ways to fluster your subs beyond the common ideas.

      • 🎀 Seryph (She/Her)@lemmygrad.ml
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        5 months ago
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        cute is almost more a demanour or vibe than anything else.

        Yeah cuteness is a mindset as much as it is a particular aesthetic. I could (and do!) pull off being super pretty, refined, and elegant, but I can also pull off cute. And sometimes I do both at once if I'm in the right mindspace at the time. And I found my ex adorable partly due to how unrefined she looked sometimes. Even if it wasn't traditionally cute it was super cute.

    • 🎀 Seryph (She/Her)@lemmygrad.ml
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      5 months ago
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      Traditional conceptions of cuteness might be, but just like how conventional beauty standards aren't the only way to be beautiful conventional cuteness is not the only way to be cute. I may be taller than most cis women but I'm utterly adorable because I've got the right mindset for it and an eye for cute styles.