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Is my transness coming for my asexuality as well??? Wadda hell? I've considered that part of me to be an immutable fact since high school
many such cases! my asexuality certainly reoriented itself once i began being myself!
I thought I might be ace for ages as a teenager, turns out I just didn't want to be a man in a sexual role.
My orientation didn't exactly change but the way it expressed itself did if that makes sense? Always been pan but the way I relate to other genders when I started transitioning felt a lot different. From what I've seen and read, libido changes in either direction towards
or 
are both totally normal, as is a change in orientation.
anecdotally (slightly thirsty)
I'd always been attracted to some men but never found masc guys attractive until transitioning and then at some point into starting hrt I noticed at the gym my brain was going
for burly dudes and thought they smelled good??
My libido is basically zero and nothing has changed on that front, but after realizing that I'm not aromantic, I just don't want to date as a guy, I was watching a movie with a scene of romantic intimacy, and it clicked in my brain. "OH! that's why people bang! Emotional intimacy!" Which is something I knew conceptually, but that was the first time I actually understood. And for the first time ever I thought "you know what that could actually be kinda nice."
I'm so curious what is gonna happen if/when I get my ass on hrt.
sexual, not explicit but just general libido stuff
Prior to starting hrt, my libido was like an annoying physical chore I just had to occasionally deal with, like being busy and realizing you haven't eaten and then getting food becomes a chore
Afterwards I've actually been able to enjoy it sometimes, being more in tune with your body really allows you to actually be sensual and connect with a partner more
(and hrt added some new erogenous areas
)
Can take being yourself to figure out, and if you are still ace it may help you figure out what kind of ace you are.
I've always been ace myself.
i so so so want to go down this tunnel ... despite wanting to learn all the other stuff too ... are there different kinds of ace? i have a really weird relationship to sex/romance but i think the conversations here about vampire kissing simulator have made me really curious about it
There's numerous ace-spec identities think of it like the autism spectrum. Some are more common, like asexual, demisexual, and greysexual, and can stand on their own as identities, other's are microlabels or identities that fall under the umbrella but cannot stand on their own and must be used in addition to another ace-spec label.
here is the pie chart
There's also a wiki which should help somewhat
oh! that is ... a different kind of pie chart than i expected lmao, maybe I'll check out the wiki the metaphor is a bit difficult to follo-
https://lgbtqia.wiki/wiki/Fictosexual
oh man, i am gonna have to do some thinking about this.
Good luck figuring things out, can take a bit
yeah, i think it's changed over time too, the other comment i made was true when i initially transitioned ... but over time it's changed
Not surprising, people can change over time or suddenly too or because of other factors. We aren't set in stone.
Maybe maybe not? I got ace once I got trans so Idk.
yep, i was only interested in women before and then suddenly guys smelled good and i realized i liked it when people (redacted)... i am a stereotype