• Angel [any]M
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    7 months ago

    As someone who goes by any and all pronouns, the responses usually are:

    • Feeling the need to use he/she/they in the same sentence.

    "Angel told me that he/she/they are going to the store to pick up some hummus. He/she/they said it's his/her/their favorite food!"

    • Someone, usually a chud, who operates on calling me he/him pronouns exclusively because I was assigned male at birth, thinking it offends me but I really don't care.

    "Well, you're a biological MALE! So you're a he and a sir to me! Ha! Triggered yet?"

    • Someone who simply defaults to they/them. (This is usually the easiest, least convoluted option for a lot of people honestly.)
    • Someone who calls me she/her pronouns because they practically see me as a binary trans woman and erase the non-binary aspect of my gender entirely, even if I emphasize that it's not really accurate to think of me as such.
    • Someone who alternates pronouns, either occasionally or frequently.

    "Angel is going on a vacation to his favorite place soon. I can't wait to see their pictures, and I hope she has fun!"

    It's fun because, in essence, I don't care about what pronouns people call me whatsoever, but you can learn a lot about a person from these responses like what the Tumblr post is saying.

    • NateSwift@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      7 months ago

      As someone who is extremely confused about their gender and defaults to “any”, I almost always use they/them for people who go by any because it’s the easiest thing not to forget

      • Septimaeus@infosec.pub
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        7 months ago

        Might be a useful habit anyway. There are many professional settings where gender should not, and in some cases legally cannot, matter at all and “they/them” is preferred as the gender-neutral convention.

        Anyway pronouns seem way too fundamental in speech to be gendered by default in day-to-day use, where people often don’t know each other well.