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  • rayne [she/her]
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    4 months ago
    gf update and sex stuff

    We found some middle ground last night. Cuddled and slept together. Cuddled some more this morning and made out.

    Taking sex slow so we both can feel safe and understand our needs better. We've both been caught in heterosexual patriarchal normatives around sex and neither of us have really found satisfaction in it.

    She's not ace. She was getting turned on this morning. But we pendulated and both want to take it slow so that we don't fall into old habits.

    My libido is a lot more manageable too. Third week of sub-c HRT. Morning erections are softer and less insistent. Holding space for us to make out this morning without my habit energy and hormones being pushy was nice too.

    • WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them]@lemmy.today
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      4 months ago
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      Glad you are finding something that is working a bit for both of you.

      She’s not ace. She was getting turned on this morning.

      Isn't horniness in the morning normal anyways though? Glad HRT nerfed that; being a horny ace is just annoying.

      • rayne [she/her]
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        4 months ago
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        I think both of us are more on the demisexual spectrum.

        In posts I made during the last trans mega while we were sorting this stuff out, people had asked me if she was ace. And I was having fears that sex was completely off the table because I would still like to explore my own sexuality, especially now that it's changing.

        My libido was making it hard to sort out needs of physical intimacy (like cuddling all night) from sexual needs that had been historically expressed through the patriarchal/heteronormative lens. So her getting aroused helped me to see that she's still attracted to me as a woman, and that she needs some space from sex and to take it slow because of our history. Which wasn't really satisfying for either of us.

        • magi [null/void]M
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          4 months ago

          Acespec is complicated, sex isn't off the table in all cases. You should both do some research.