Hi comrades, want to give you all an informal update on the discussions around the site's misogyny problems that've been happening over the last several days. I wanna make sure you know that the admin/mod team has seen all of that discourse and we've been actively discussing solutions in the matrix mod chat. We're taking this shit very seriously and acknowledge that we haven't used a heavy enough hand on misogynistic rhetoric. As some of you saw we nuked that cheating thread from a couple weeks ago and handed out temp bans to the most egregious offenders. Idk how that was allowed to run it's course but we apologize for that oversight. We're going to do better.

We've come up with some ideas for how to improve this part of the site culture and we want to get suggestions from y'all as well, since the alarm was sounded on this by our beautiful c/traa posters to begin with. Our ideas so far include:

  1. A zero-tolerance policy towards any even remotely misogynistic/patriarchal posts or comments, as too much has slipped through the cracks on that, establishing a clear protocol for bans for violating rules against misogyny, and ideally tracking repeat offenders in a way that makes deciding a course of action easy when they reoffend.

  2. Uphold TC69 thought by starting up a book club (and hopefully more to follow) on feminist theory and encouraging mass participation, particularly from the he/him's on the site. "The Will to Change" by bell hooks has been suggested by multiple people as a great starting point but please feel free to suggest any other works.

  3. Relaunching /c/menby with a trusted educated mod team and a specific focus on countering mainstream narratives about masculinity, relationships and sex that breed reactionary, patriarchal attitudes

  4. Encouraging [namely femme] participation in /c/womenby and taking steps to revitalize that sub as an excellent source of discussion on feminism and intersectionality

  5. Holding another mod drive to get more folks into mod positions in our communities who can help weed out reactionary attitudes

  6. Encouraging users to use the report button often on any post that seems even remotely sus, with the promise that no one's going to be punished for "report abuse" for reporting posts in obvious good faith

Please let me know your thoughts on the above or any other ideas you have for making the site better, safer and more inclusive for our femme comrades. Once we've fully hammered out plans and updated policy we plan to make an announcement post highlighting these changes for the whole userbase. Thank you all for being here and being who you are feminism trans-heart

  • belligerentkitten [they/them, it/its]M
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    2 months ago

    i v much agree with the way u lay out how the communities should work. the feminist and deconstruction comms should never have been made to "match". and the enby one is a completely different kind of space, in my mind. we're not exactly trying to make a gender comm for each of the 3 genders.

    also please please can we have a neutral community. i've always felt v alienated by most trans communities because of this kinda thing and it would be so nice to have an enby community that isn't divided by birth assignment. don't get me wrong i appreciate that the trans community as a whole isn't segregated here but it's hard to feel at home sometimes when it just seems like everyone approaches things so diifferently to me.

    • ashinadash [she/her]
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      2 months ago

      Trans anything divided by birth assignment when it reinvents the gender binary with extra steps

      madeline-stare gunpoint-alt

      • imogen_underscore [it/its, she/her]
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        2 months ago

        this is what made me uninstall tiktok again recently... i know it's a bunch of kids on there so you know pinch of salt but i didn't need to be exposed to such takes as:

        transphobic/queerphobic ignorant takes

        "butch-fem relationships are heteronormative"

        "if you take T or use he/him that means you cannot be a lesbian"

        "you can only be a lesbian if you're female nonbinary, male nonbinary can't qualify"

        yeag it's bad

        • ashinadash [she/her]
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          2 months ago

          Saw your edit just now, these are like bottom-end Tumblr takes from 2015. The "heteronormative" one made me snort.

          • imogen_underscore [it/its, she/her]
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            2 months ago

            yea that one really got me too lol. ik it's a bunch of kids and they will learn in time but for my blood pressure's sake i had to stop exposing myself to that (i don't have the self control to not read the comments and tiktok comments is about on the level of 2010 youtube for some reason)

            • ashinadash [she/her]
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              2 months ago

              I kind of felt this way about tumblr too, like I wanted to push their faces into Beyond Blue & Pink or something. They're re-enacting struggle sessions from the 1960s...

              • the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]
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                2 months ago

                seems like it might be a huge gift to the community to have some tiny sound bite videos that relay the most salient points and direct interested folks to further reading

                maybe somebody is already making those videos, and through the power of Hexbear, we could ask follow and comment/like/share those creators to help force the algorithm to feed them to others

                • ashinadash [she/her]
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                  2 months ago

                  What Tankietube was built for probably.

                  [Boomer Alert] Feinberg for the tiktok generation...

        • ashinadash [she/her]
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          2 months ago

          If I had ever installed tiktok I would uninstall it also for this reason :)

        • PM_ME_YOUR_FOUCAULTS [he/him, they/them]
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          2 months ago

          Ig if people want it, but its weird people are acting like this site has only had spaces for binary people and the poor enbies have been shivering out in the cold waiting for our own dedicated comm lol

          • keepcarrot [she/her]
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            2 months ago

            I guess people want a comm with regular activity, not just a comm