Final Fantasy XI
Final Fantasy XI is the eleventh numbered installment in the… Okay, you know what it is, I’m just going to tell you about one of the storylines!
During the Wings of the Goddess expansion, adventurers will be sent back in time to experience the events of the Crystal War, a cataclysmic event that is the foundation for conflicts of the modern-day timeline. Should an adventurer choose to serve the Kingdom of San d’Oria, they will be immersed in the story of the Young Griffons—a group of children who would see themselves knights, many of whom grow into prominent characters later in life.
Among the Young Griffons, the player will find Bistillot, a shy boy who doesn’t like to be seen. With his penchant for engineering, shy demeanor, and lack of combat potential, Bistillot prefers to spend his time inside of an orcish war machine that he was able to repair to working condition.
He is often seen before he is heard, with his signature phrase, “HAAAALLOOOOOOOOO” being used to hail the adventurer. Through the course of the story, Bistillot finds his way, even contributing to the war effort with his engineering skills.
However, when another member of the Young Griffons is kidnapped and taken to the present day, the adventurer must return to the present day and reunite with the Young Griffons’ present selves! The adventurer’s first contact in the present day is Bistillot. When the adventurer hears the signature “HAAAALLOOOOOOO,” Bistillot approaches the player, but what the player sees is… a woman?? She introduces herself as Bostilette, a “friend of Bistillot.”
After the rescue mission, Bostilette comes clean. She is, of course, the very same Bistillot who was a little boy twenty years earlier. She explains that she was very sick as a baby, so her parents gave her a boy’s name so that she would be stronger and survive the illness. Once she overcame the illness, she was comfortable to reclaim her name and gender. Well, that closes the book on that story, except… I’ve decided that’s bullshit!
I have unilaterally decided that Bostilette is trans, the sickness she had was dysphoria, she stayed in the orcish war machine because she was an egg, and I hope you all agree!
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Yep!! I know this too, that's why I started posting here! Too many words, I was drowning in them. It was kinda low-stakes since I didn't have strong attachments to anyone.
I think it got easier with time for me and I had to kinda start small. The inciting incident, if you will, was that a long-time friend of mine made a joke that hurt my feelings a number of months ago. And I was upset about it for like a month. And I couldn't tell her, other than not laughing at the joke, how I felt. Telling her about it would have been a big messy thing, but I've since been working on opening up to her about positive emotions (because those are easier to communicate) first and it's been going pretty well. But it was nerve-wracking to let the mask slip, luckily she's been very kind the entire time
. I have to believe that it can go well, I can't stay like I was.
I've also had some things not go well, despite me trying my best.
Ah, yeah I am some form of ND (probably AuDHD, started reading about it a few months ago) and so I have a very different emotional profile to most NT people. I can't remember (sorry) if you are ND as well. I think I've just accepted that my close friends will have to be a similar presentation of neurodivergence to me.
I have been this way. I wish I knew how to help, I try to distract myself these days when it happens.
Up to you if you want to share, I will do my best to listen, but I will have to bed in an hour or so and so I may only respond tomorrow depending on timing.
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For me it ends up in this place where i feel like i need to leave first to keep from getting hurt. Even when I logically know thats not true, the impulse to do so can be overwhelming.
Im glad you started
Even here i get that same impulse to leave, people here know me a little bit (some know me a lot) and it scares the shit out of me. Im staying tho! I dont want to lose this space, and its good for me to try and stick around somewhere. I tend to leave places after a year, and im trying to stop that cycle in my life.
Im happy this is working for you ^^ Its scary. I have gotten to that point with some roommates, but its a lot harder with people im actually wanting to be close to.
Its unknown but likely. Adhd, autism, bipolar, bpd, these all have a bunch of overlapping symptoms/traits/whatever. Probably some kind of adhd or audhd going on in my head.
I dont really have anyone like that around me? Im in a weird position of having been raised by mental healthcare professionals (srsly, my whole family is some form of therapist/psychologist/psychiatrist/etc.) so i have a pretty good grasp of psychodynamics without having any real education on it. So when I go to share i often start talking about processes, and using language and words in ways that they dont understand or misunderstand, and i just end up feeling misunderstood because my language doesnt match theirs. Im great at hearing and understanding my friends tho lol.
Idk what else to say really
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I can super relate here, I think I finally figured it out though: that actual pain of being hurt like super sucks, so it uh seems kinda natural...
Wow, I uh apparently really needed to hear that today, thank you :) I appreciate it. And yeah I feel the same way about this space. I refuse to give up on it. I was talking this morning to partner about how restrictive my "close friend" preferences are, haha, and well where else are the leftist transpeople?
It's funny that you say a year, for some reason this is my benchmark too. Few things have lasted longer than a year for me ... only one job, one romantic relationship, one friend (happens to be an ex), a tiny handful of acquaintances (and all in the past few years)... I'm glad you're fighting. We may not have a perfect success rate, but the only way to really find people we can connect with is to keep trying. It's what I tell myself.
Yeah, like the more you like someone the more difficult it is to open up about the real mess inside. I can relate to that for sure.
Yeah, they do have a lot of overlapping, it's true. I had my therapist suggest I look into autism after the first appointment lol and then I read several books, did every assessment online, watched a bunch of youtube videos from autistic creators explaining their lives, I got a little super into the reading
. Talking to actually autistic people online though really sealed it for me, there are a couple people bouncing around here that are definitely me fr fr.
Wow, this sounds actually kind of interesting. I wanted to go into psyc in college but uh well a lot happened in college ... had trouble with studying ... ended up stuck in comp sci...
I don't have formal training either but I am super curious as to what one of these posts would look like if you don't mind sharing :3
And I meant "theoretical close friends" since well even my closest new connection I've only known a couple months, so a bit too early to tell if it'll last (hoping, though...)