BDSM isn't entirely about pain or violence. That's the sadism and masochism part, wherein someone derives pleasure from causing pain or receiving pain, typically not specifically for the pain but the psychological element of being in a position of power or submission to someone else. The physical sensation is frequently secondary, but can be a source of additional stimulus. If you've ever gotten runner's high or felt a rush after getting a tattoo, it's sort of like that. Your body supplies endorphins after pain or exertion, and if you're already in a state of heightened sexual stimulation the pain drives you even higher and you don't really feel it, especially if your mind is preoccupied in a submissive state. If you're the dominant partner then you're probably not getting off from hurting someone, you're getting off from asserting your will onto them and seeing them get off to it.
Most BDSM inflictions of pain aren't shit like knife play or burning or strangling or anything that would even leave a mark. Depictions of BDSM in pornography are no more real than anything else in porn and are often taken to a greater extreme than anything real practitioners go for.
Sex specifically with the intent of causing pain is not what BDSM is.
Idk if it’s weird but I always enjoy the first like hour of getting a tattoo but after awhile my tolerance drops and it starts to like genuinely hurt hurt
I had a 3 hour session once where I wasn't really bothered for the first 2.5 hours, then it hurt real bad, and then I had to crash for half an hour at the studio to get the shakes out from the adrenaline / dopamine rush. Ate a granola bar and hit the road and took a nap when I got home.
Having pressure applied to your blood vessels in your neck can induce a light headed feeling of euphoria, and is also a great experience of trust between the people in the act
It is!! Like people thinking choking is stopping the wind and it's like no it's putting the right amount of pressure where you said to make you feel all wooooOooOoooo.
So like im a subby gal who enjoys a good flogging. I dont know what scientifically happens, but at a certain point i am just laughing and screaming and need to be tied down because otherwise ill get too squirmy to hit safely or worse lash out at my Domme. Beyond the laughter is the blissed out not-really-present part which i just love but seldom enter.
Its really fun, and yeah the pain is an integral part of that, without it i dont laugh, or feel euphoric joy. Afterwards i may find pride in how much or how little i took. It makes me feel very close to my partner, and it tickles my sensory organs (sometimes literally), and it just overall is very very fun. Coupled with orgasm its even better. Hopefully thats helpful to you ^^
It's like a rollercoaster or spicy food. It's exhilarating and freeing. It's a chance to break serious taboos in a safe, controlled way. For me, it's a way to let go of trauma by removing the fear of certain memories.
People generally always like violence. Look at contact sports, movies, and video games. It activates a similar part of the primal brain and sex. So sometimes you cna do both at once for an extra thrill
Some do. It can be about the thrill of overcoming your limits. Or simply enjoying the little adrenaline space from a little spank. Or a hundred other things that could be idiosyncratic. Look at people talking about enjoying the pain of a good work out
It's a fairly diverse set of intimate practices, usually involving some form of power exchange.
but why
i need a variety of nuanced perspectives to be able to distill the best take
lol for sure I was just joking
Why anything really? Why do you enjoy whatever it is that you enjoy, and not other things?
i just feel like people generally dislike being subjected to violence and pain so i’m curious what makes this the exception
BDSM isn't entirely about pain or violence. That's the sadism and masochism part, wherein someone derives pleasure from causing pain or receiving pain, typically not specifically for the pain but the psychological element of being in a position of power or submission to someone else. The physical sensation is frequently secondary, but can be a source of additional stimulus. If you've ever gotten runner's high or felt a rush after getting a tattoo, it's sort of like that. Your body supplies endorphins after pain or exertion, and if you're already in a state of heightened sexual stimulation the pain drives you even higher and you don't really feel it, especially if your mind is preoccupied in a submissive state. If you're the dominant partner then you're probably not getting off from hurting someone, you're getting off from asserting your will onto them and seeing them get off to it.
Most BDSM inflictions of pain aren't shit like knife play or burning or strangling or anything that would even leave a mark. Depictions of BDSM in pornography are no more real than anything else in porn and are often taken to a greater extreme than anything real practitioners go for.
Sex specifically with the intent of causing pain is not what BDSM is.
Lmao I want to try knife play but my bf has a hard no on that
Idk if it’s weird but I always enjoy the first like hour of getting a tattoo but after awhile my tolerance drops and it starts to like genuinely hurt hurt
I had a 3 hour session once where I wasn't really bothered for the first 2.5 hours, then it hurt real bad, and then I had to crash for half an hour at the studio to get the shakes out from the adrenaline / dopamine rush. Ate a granola bar and hit the road and took a nap when I got home.
I don’t think that’s weird at all, I think that’s your body running out of adrenaline
Thanks for the detailed answer. My question was indeed prompted by seeing yet another porn scene ruined by strangulation.
Having pressure applied to your blood vessels in your neck can induce a light headed feeling of euphoria, and is also a great experience of trust between the people in the act
Or so I've been told
It is!! Like people thinking choking is stopping the wind and it's like no it's putting the right amount of pressure where you said to make you feel all wooooOooOoooo.
stopping air or blood, the end result is depriving the brain of oxygen which seems uh, decidedly not good
i can understand superficial skin damage, but the brain is way more fragile
So like im a subby gal who enjoys a good flogging. I dont know what scientifically happens, but at a certain point i am just laughing and screaming and need to be tied down because otherwise ill get too squirmy to hit safely or worse lash out at my Domme. Beyond the laughter is the blissed out not-really-present part which i just love but seldom enter.
Its really fun, and yeah the pain is an integral part of that, without it i dont laugh, or feel euphoric joy. Afterwards i may find pride in how much or how little i took. It makes me feel very close to my partner, and it tickles my sensory organs (sometimes literally), and it just overall is very very fun. Coupled with orgasm its even better. Hopefully thats helpful to you ^^
It's like a rollercoaster or spicy food. It's exhilarating and freeing. It's a chance to break serious taboos in a safe, controlled way. For me, it's a way to let go of trauma by removing the fear of certain memories.
People generally always like violence. Look at contact sports, movies, and video games. It activates a similar part of the primal brain and sex. So sometimes you cna do both at once for an extra thrill
people like looking at, or maybe inflicting damage, but not taking damage
Some do. It can be about the thrill of overcoming your limits. Or simply enjoying the little adrenaline space from a little spank. Or a hundred other things that could be idiosyncratic. Look at people talking about enjoying the pain of a good work out
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Because sometimes it triggers a person's brain to release the feelgood chemicals.
The only things we really enjoy in life are dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin.
why does it make some people release those chemicals?
Bud, if we had an answer for that, we'd basically have mental health solved.
No one knows for sure but there's a lot of conflicting opinions on the subject