Also I'm colorblind. I've never felt more disabled than I have since starting transitioning 😳

  • tetrabrick [xey/xem, she/her]
    hexbear
    23
    10 months ago

    Walk throught the street watching what people wear and see if you like it for yourself.

    Use pinterest for inspiration or follow the algorithm in tiktok.

    Also, dont forget that is free to experiment with clothing at a clothing store, go with someone you feel safe.

    • GaveUp [she/her]M
      hexbear
      15
      10 months ago

      Instagram too

      Check out skate parks, music shows, museums, any artsy event

  • jwsmrz [comrade/them]
    hexbear
    22
    edit-2
    10 months ago

    high waisted stuff is your friend, a lot of more fem stuff is meant to fit around the belly button or just below. If you're used to wearing dude clothes you're probably used to fitting stuff near your hip bones.

    An easy thing to try to start building outfits is "big shirt small pants" or "big pants small shirt" to see what proportions of things look good on you. High waisted baggyish stuff will go a long way to making your proportions look like you have hips.

    Take your measurements for shopping online using string then measuring it

    Prepare for disappointment; womens clothing is a lot harder to size. Just because something doesn't flatter your body doesn't mean you're failing, it's hard for every fem person. A combination of HRT changing your figure / finding out what works for you will expand your wardrobe options. Pay attention to what works and persevere

    It's a process.

    Learn how to take care of your hair properly. Google around for hair types, figure out what yours is, then google further to find recommendations on washing / conditioning routines / products. You probably need to shampoo than you have been, and condition more than you have been.

    Don't panic about browsing the women's section. No one's watching, no one cares, the staff aren't paid enough to give a fuck. It's relatively common for even cis straight men to shop partially out of the women's section. Lots of cishet men fashion influencers will recommend this especially since more cropped shirts are in style right now. If you're too anxious to use the changeroom, just buy a bunch of shit and return what you dislike, no one cares.

    Good luck comrade

  • GenderIsOpSec [she/her]
    hexbear
    11
    10 months ago

    gamer-gulag response, but i had been styling and dressing up avatars for years before my egg cracked. it's an easy solution to start with, but eventually you just need to go and start trying stuff out (or order them online if anxiety gets you cat-trans)

  • Erika3sis [she/her, xe/xem]
    hexbear
    10
    10 months ago

    Mentioning colorblindness, I can just imagine, like, a custom shirt or something with an Ishihara plate reading "My AGAB" — because "Honestly, I never really saw it!", or some other sort of groansome gender joke like that.

    For more serious advice... Your wallet will thank you if you learn craft skills for repurposing old, unwanted clothes. I managed to repurpose an old Grim Reaper costume from my childhood into a sort of impromptu gothic miniskirt, and I made one little snip into a pair of boxer-briefs to make them into a perfectly-fitting sports bra. There are lots of tutorials for doing this sort of thing.

    Also, Non Non Biyori pog

    • SpookyGenderCommunist [they/them]
      hexagon
      hexbear
      6
      edit-2
      10 months ago

      I've been slowly teaching myself how to sew, which has been helpful. I can't say I'm especially good at it yet, but it's come on handy here and there so far!

      Also, Non Non Biyori pog

      n y a n p a s u It's my favorite anime!

      Show

  • @onlinely@lemm.ee
    hexbear
    8
    10 months ago

    I mean, I recommend stitch fix to anyone who isn’t happy with how they dress. https://www.stitchfix.com/women

    Idk if it’s good for everyone but hey here it is

    • SpookyGenderCommunist [they/them]
      hexagon
      hexbear
      2
      10 months ago

      Aaaaand it requires my email address 😑

      A friend forwarded me a test like this, about make-up, which did the same thing. I wish I could figure this shit out without every resource trying to acquire every detail of my digital life, to beam advertising at me 24/7

      • @StickyPickle@lemmy.ml
        hexbear
        9
        10 months ago

        You could use a mail masking forward service like https://simplelogin.io/ or https://ironvest.com/.

        They give you a custom email address that forwards to your main email. It lets you stop forwarding the address at any time. Helps cut down on spam and lets me know when a service is breached since it's always a unique email address. There's a few others out there as well that do basically the same thing. Some may offer additional goodies like ome time credit cards or forwarding phone numbers.