my new years resolution is to get gayer. i'm pretty satisfied with the level of trans i'm on, though i might get my gender legally changed. i do want to update my wardrobe a bit (my fashion sense has evolved since i first really did that post coming out) but money is very expensive
what are all of you hoping for this year?
Not exactly 'new year' related but I'm hoping to get some more good trans girl friends. Want to be able to speak completely freely and be around people with better vibes
hell yeah, can't recommend that enough. my life got so much better once i started hanging out with more trans people
My bottom surgery is in early April. I’m hoping that goes very well and I have few to no complications from it. Also hope that my boobs continue growing so they are somewhat even and are proportional to my massive frame. If not, I’ll probably set up for top surgery this year if finances allow. Imagine having DDs and still looking wonky as hell. That’s my situation :\
I’m also secretly hoping that my mother understands why I cut contact with her. I didn’t want to, that’s for sure. But everyone I would talk to her, she would figure out a way to heavily inflame dysphoria in me causing me to spiral for a couple of days. I’ve tried explaining to her several times why she should please not do this or that, but it just would never get through. She would combat me and tell me “I’m accepting!” without truly understanding what it means to be a good ally. She also still deadnames me and misgenders me to this day…somehow. I pass in 98% of instances, so that can’t be it. Idk
Maybe I’m asking too much of myself and the world at large this year. Who knows. We will see as time drags on.
Also, sorry if I overshared. I have no idea where the cutoff point is for neurotypical folks.
i hope your surgery goes well, and that your body ends up where you'd like it to! and that your mom realizes how shitty she's been
i don't think that's oversharing, but i am also a bad judge of that and am very much not neurotypical
It's a constant struggle to say the least. And I'm sure I'll end up sharing when the time comes around for the surgery. This is one of the few places online where I feel safe enough to freely speak about such matters. But thank you very much. Here's looking forward to a good 2024.
Happy New Year!
Women's clothes are way too expensive i cry lol
My resolution is that I will come out as trans before the year is out, I will wait no longer!
Really?
I somehow in my head thought they were interrelated.
I just don't feel masculine, is all, and I don't want to be.
fair warning, none of the following identities are ones i personally have experience with (though i have close friends who have). i might not be 100% right about all this, but i think i am
asexual just means you don't (or mostly don't) experience sexual attraction. you might be thinking of agender which is when you don't have gender. that also isn't exactly exclusive with being nonbinary, which just means you aren't part of the gender binary, and not having gender is also removing yourself from the gender binary
This year I want to let myself do whatever I want with my appearance. I've held myself back from looking how I want to look in case other people disapprove in the past, and I don't want to do that anymore. I want to cut my hair, shave my beard off, wear my contact lenses more, dye my hair white and change my fashion sense to be a lot funkier and weirder
I know it's cheesy, but my new year's resolution is just to be myself this year, and stop pretending to be someone I'm not : )
Hoping I can start hormones soon. My shipment has been successfully snuck into the EU, so finger crossed it makes it to my country, and my mailbox, without trouble.
i really hope so too. i hope you can be yourself and find the joy that comes with that
i have pretty big plans for this year
- finally start HRT, it's my priority number one, and i really really really hope i will manage to do that
- keep making friends with other trans people
, before 2023 ended i met with local trans folks from my town, and it was the first time ever i met someone like me irl, i was very shy and didn't talk much but i hope next time we meet i will be more open, i also have trans friends that i met online, unfortunately we wouldn't be able to meet irl soon because we are from different countries but i can spend time with them online and i want to do that more often. Also it's seems that there is a lot of lovely people here on hexbear, i am not very active here but i hope i can fix that, maybe i will find new friends here! - come out to my older brother and maybe to some other people, it's the hardest goal and i am very scared to do that but i hope i have enough bravery for this and everything will be alright, if my brother will accept me it will make me so happy, i love him but we are becoming more distant from each other because i have to hide my identity, it would be amazing if i will be able to be myself with him
- be consistent with voice training: i started voice training a few times but i keep abandoning it and this makes me feel bad
so i am gonna to do exercises right now!
godspeed!!!! in my experience you make irl trans friends by being autistic about anime in front of them but i cannot guarantee that succeeding so my advice is to simply be yourself
i really hope coming out goes well, i believe in you! you can do it! and you can keep to the voice training too!
thank you! i think some of trans that i met watches anime so i might try that! it's hard for me to just be myself because i got used to suppress my feelings but i will keep trying!
I managed to be gayer the first day of this year than the whole 2023, so that one is in the bag
I hope to find a better job and maybe finish at least one of my long term projects
Learn more languages, find people that I can bear to be around, get a better job, move city. Get medical treatment by any means necessary
I think I'll be coming out fully at some point this year. Being closeted is far too distressing these days, so, even though I dread the process of coming out, I think it's going to be necessary in the very near future.
I should be getting onto the top surgery waitlist in a week or two, which probably means I'll be on it for most of 2024 (and some or potentially all of 2025, too).
Potentially I'll also be legally changing my name and gender too, we'll see.
None of these things will be fun, but hopefully life afterwards will be more livable.
Tbh I wanna come out at least to quite a few people. By the end of the year I'll honestly have to be out because I'm starting to grow boobs haha. I also know I'm gonna have to boymode basically in Feb and April, but af r er that I kinda wanna never do that ever again. I got so fucked up mentally by doing that for 9 days Over Christmas, I never wanna do it again.
Also seriously considering taking some stress/mental health leave from my job. Like 2-3 months. But if I can't get it at least partially paid then it's dead in the water.
i really hope that goes well for you, coming out can be super stressful but the relief of being able to be open about yourself is so strong
HOPEFULLY: sunflowers, squash, beans, garlic, corn, broccoli, dill, lettuce, carrots, red peppers, potatoes, random native groundcover seed mix
The sunflowers are for the pretties and the birds, the broccoli is for the butterflies. I accidentally let them go to bloom but i noticed the butterflies were absolutely loving them, so i let most of the rest go to bloom and plan to plant more.
I need to do some research on plants for butterflies this year, but i got time. I also want to start some microgreens inside, i guess it's real easy. Basically just re-use a tofu container (or something like that), fill with soil, cover with seed and cover with foil and set in the sun, after a few days you have fresh greens to harvest :3
my ex planted the garden last year, but we broke up pretty early. So i tended it and harvested it after, and this will be my first year starting from scratch.
I also need to get rid of the plants i accidentally killed by overwatering inside and plant new stuff in their pots. But i'm waiting for more money to get soil and seeds before doing that.
damn, sorry for the wall of text. Gardening is cool
godspeed!!! i bet you'll look sick as hell
