I’m proud of myself for putting myself out there
Getting shot down blows, but it's better than looking back later and wondering why you didn't put yourself out there.
50% chance for it to be a mistyping, 50% chance for it to be pure chapo energy.
What you did was courageous as fuck, please be aware of it. Getting shot down when you open up is really horrible, but please don't let it make you close up on yourself even more ; even if the response wasn't a success, the act in itself, the fact you managed to muster up the courage to open up, that right here is a big, big success over yourself.
I hope you manage to get back up on your feet soon enough! And don't forget the most important: you rule!
Yikes. That's really on him tbh. Good he apologized but still a yikes. I hope you can get back up on your feet soon enough, be strong comrade!
Dating is never that fun, especially if you have so many expectations and not used to rejection. For the time being fall back on your friends, keep going, try and meet new or old people that make you happy. You'll be fine. Looking back most of my old crushes were pretty silly, and I didn't always know what I wanted, but at the time it was easy for heartbrake to get to me.
cheer up comrade. I actually made a point to ask out the only leftist coworker I have because we hit it off and I thought he was putting moves on me when he texted me out of the blue to come out to a bar one night. I have never felt more pain than when he just ignored me and steered the conversation back to us shitting on Biden lmao
hahaha I still clearly feel some type of way about the whole thing since the pandemic has made it so I can't exactly text him like "hey you bastard let's grab a bite to eat" so I can throw a drink in his face and trip over my shoe-laces as I storm out crying. My work performance has definitely improved since then, though, as I don't bother to engage in an actual conversation with him when he asks a question or sends an link lol.
idk if it helps but it sounds like he just doesn't know how to deal with letting someone down. he's clearly still trying to be your friend. this might be something you both laugh at in a couple of years.
Being the one letting a friend down is shittty too, you feel guilty for making the other sad and things wont be the same so you lost a friend.
Everybody is saying how you'll eventually find someone by trying over and over again so I just want to acknowledge how much it sucks that all those other people aren't the one you want to be with. Lovers aren't disposable and I'm sure you were attracted to this guy for some very strong reasons and personal qualities. There's no cure for heartache except time and even that only means the wound has healed. Shit fucking sucks.
I had my wife of almost a decade tell me she wasn't attracted to me anymore. I know how you feel. I literally don't even want to be with her anymore; it's been a year, and I feel like my life is way better without her, and I've had other fulfilling relationships since then, both romantic and platonic, that made me feel valued, but for some reason the rejection still hurts even though I don't want to be with her.
It's very weird. But hurting means you're human. Hang in there.
It stings because you care, and it will sting for a while yet. Don't try to push the feelings away or shove it down. You're far braver than me; I got set up on a blind date before I found someone I could be with. It happened really fast and hey, relationship! You'll find someone. Just weather this through.
