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  • QueerCommie [comrade/them, she/her]
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    2 months ago

    Then remove it maybe. If you want she/hers, just use that tag. Maybe it sounds weird, but your username and pfp are pretty androgynous so I guess I understand if people see it and default to they/them, taking a glance at your pronouns. I default they them (for others regardless of gender) no matter what, personally. I like she/hers too, tho.

    • BountifulEggnog [she/her]
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      2 months ago

      oooaaaaaaauhhh I know I should but it all just feels weird to me. Even getting she/her on there at all was hard. I also wouldn't be upset if you did they/them me on here because that is one of my tags.

      The thing is I completely understand defaulting to they/them online and do the same, you don't really see any of my presentation online. Right now my presentation irl is completely a guy, and I'd understand/be fine with someone using he/him but once I start changing that... You know?

      • TerminalEncounter [she/her]
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        2 months ago

        I remember the inevitable "let's go around the room and say our names and pronouns" and feeling locked up cause I boymoded that day... ugh awful. I ended up saying I just wasn't using pronouns even though inside I was screaming "just use she/her pleeeeeaaase." I didn't like the idea of boymode me being so incongrous with what I wanted to be referred to as.

        • WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them]@lemmy.today
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          2 months ago

          I remember the inevitable “let’s go around the room and say our names and pronouns” and feeling locked up cause I boymoded that day

          As an egg, I was glad to never be asked my pronouns cause I didn't want to think about that.

        • Lenins_Cat_Reincarnated [he/him]
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          2 months ago

          When I girlmode and people do the pronoun circle I say they/them usually, but yeah I feel super shitty whenever I get in that situation and I have to lie

      • rayne [she/her]
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        2 months ago
        cis folks are dumb about gender

        I haven't started hormones yet so I definitely have masculine traits. Anyway I was at a party and presenting very feminine otherwise, and I got misgendered. I gently corrected the person and that was it.

        I think a lot of cis people are defaulting to they them, in an effort to not assume. But they don't realize that itself is an assumption.

        What I would like though is more people just asking what pronouns I prefer. And I hope we'll get there soon, but yeah cis people don't understand that it's okay to ask and I had to explain it to cis friend of mine who was not sure how they should gender somebody that was presenting very gender neutral that they had recently met. So I told her just to ask.

        Which is what I do in trans spaces and with other gender non-conforming folk. I just ask.