https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2129054

mao-wave

Hope y'all embrace TransComrade69 thought real soon

  • BodyBySisyphus [he/him]
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    1 year ago

    When you post so hard you make a common and routine part of speech fry someone's entire limbic system.

  • regularassbitch [she/her]
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    1 year ago

    They have a very different view of what constitutes an unsafe space, for the last day or so every time I saw a username with pronouns my whole body would tighten up, my asshole would go rogue and start sputtering out diarrhea farts like coughs from a terminal covid patient. Every fiber of my body would vibrate. One time I blacked out and woke up to find myself running through the halls of a Motel 6. Nobody seemed to mind until I jumped into the pool from a second floor balcony, shitting the entire time and racing my liquid fecal matter to the water. I landed in a cloud of diarrheal mist, emerging from the slop a changed person. I hate that they made me feel that way about something that should be good. I will not miss them.

    • AcidSmiley [she/her]
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      1 year ago

      I've unfortunately met at least one trans woman irl who was outright refusing to participate in the pronoun circle thing during a meetup with several nonbinary, agender or not passing trans people in the crowd. Some people get like that as soon as they have the slightest amount of passing privilege. Then again, i've also been accused by transmeds on reddit of "not passing" because i get misgendered and deadnamed on offcial documents due to local self ID laws being held up by the liberal party. There's really no end to how shitty some of these pick mes can be to their own community.

  • wtypstanaccount04 [he/him]
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    1 year ago

    Someone find that tweet where someone complained about Bernie Sanders because he reminded her of when her father got angry

      • ReadFanon [any, any]
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        1 year ago

        Look, I grew up in a seriously abusive household which caused me constant psychological distress and I can relate to hearing the key in the front door being the "Oh shit, here it comes... I wonder what shit is going to come down on me today" feeling.

        What I cannot tolerate is the idea that this is in any way close to what the US and its shitbag allies inflicted upon Afghanistan.

        Does this person seriously believe that the counterinsurgency work, the rampant human rights abuses, the kidnapping and literal torture, the fucking war for God's sake, etc. inflicted by the NATO axis upon Afghanistan is in any way comparable to an abusive household?

        Do they think that the issues of domestic violence didn't occur in Afghanistan during the war and the occupation, like they were somehow put on pause, rather than the war and occupation compounding the trauma that abused children in Afghanistan faced and continue to face today as a consequence of the war?

        Have they no idea how domestic violence rates increase as a direct result from war and occupation? Or do they just have no compassion for other victims of abuse?

        Did their psychologically abusive father happen to use depleted uranium weapons on them, for fuck's sake?

        This is just gross and a classic case of a victim not only appropriating the trauma of other survivors but using that appropriation to silence the very victims whose trauma they are appropriating and they should be disgusted in themselves for doing this, if they had any capacity for humility or shame.

        • Barbariandude [he/him]
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          1 year ago

          To steelman what you're replying to, I can understand finding it difficult to care about another tragedy, even one as large and affecting as many people as that, when you have your own personal tragedy to deal with on a daily basis.

      • nonbinarytwink [comrade/them]
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        1 year ago

        I had a similar childhood, but this is a ridiculous take. If you're projecting your trauma onto strangers, you might want to switch your focus into therapy and not politics, that's just not healthy

      • Galli [comrade/them]
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        1 year ago

        Thatcher's "there's no such thing as society. There are individual men and women and there are families" worked for killing unions so why not stretch it to justifying imperialism?

      • keepcarrot [she/her]
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        1 year ago

        I wonder if this person got their dream of a president who never raises their voice. Someone should find out.

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      1 year ago

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  • RION [she/her]
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    1 year ago

    Hearing the PC of a Hexbear turn on every evening was my own "Afghanistan" for almost two months

      • AcidSmiley [she/her]
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        1 year ago

        Getting called the reactionary grandchild of a Wehrmacht collaborator was my own Stalingrad

  • GamerGulag [they/them]
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    1 year ago

    remember back when people said bernie shouldn't be president because he raised his voice when he spoke

      • GamerGulag [they/them]
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        1 year ago

        election season produced some takes that are reminding me a lot of this situation, wherein something completely innocuous/outright good (being openly indignant about systemic oppression, displaying a user's preferred pronouns) is smeared by liberals who are trying to associate said good things with bad people, thus drawing a connection that anyone who supports these good things is actually a bad person

        they got it with bernie because he yelled, and abusive men also yell, therefore anyone supporting bernie is supporting abuse. the angle taken here is that hexbear users have pronoun tags, and hexbear users are bad, therefore you should be suspicious of anyone who has pronoun tags. they're just dipping into casual transphobia as a very limp attempt at an own

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        • ElHexo
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          2 months ago

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  • Rojo27 [he/him]
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    1 year ago

    God damn, go touch some grass if you "tighten up" at the sight of pronouns.

  • Fuckass
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    1 year ago

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    • Lojcs@lemm.ee
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      1 year ago

      I also would like to learn this. Since you people federated I've seen more posts complaining about how aggressive users of this instance are than I did from users of the instance. Yall do seem to think about politics (edit: and hate liberals) a lot more than the average user but I'm yet to see the 'vitriol'

      Edit: this is a genuine question. What bad experience is everyone talking about when they say hexbear is toxic?

      • silent_water [she/her]
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        1 year ago

        we're very active and have an anti-lurker culture + no downvotes, so if we see a bad take, we reply instead of downvoting and moving on. this leads a lot of people to get very animated and angry about us.

        • schroed4 [he/Him] @lemm.ee
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          1 year ago

          Most people can't just move on when they see something that distrubs them, and I think it would be unhealthy for most to change.

          • silent_water [she/her]
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            1 year ago

            agreed! criticism and folding received criticism (even when it's offered abrasively) back into your own behavior is essential. this was one of the motivators in disabling downvotes.

            • schroed4 [he/Him] @lemm.ee
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              1 year ago

              I expect it likely works quite well in a community where everyone knows and agrees to that. In my opinion, when the pond gets too big it becomes too hard to tell if what the abrasive-but-fair from the just-being-a-jerk comments

              Like, I was distracted for hours and couldn't sleep then couldn't work because of a side-comment insult im a post because it went against someone I strongly believe in. Had to research everything that was being said in the post and carefully reply to move on. That is not the life I want for myself. Don't know how much of that really apply here, since like someone else said, I haven't actually seen 'mean' hexbear comments outside of hexbear, and never gotten one.

              • silent_water [she/her]
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                1 year ago

                In my opinion, when the pond gets too big it becomes too hard to tell if what the abrasive-but-fair from the just-being-a-jerk comments

                firm moderation goes a very long way. if someone is just being a jerk, it's time to remove the comment. if they're doing it repeatedly, they need to be banned. doesn't solve everything but we've built a very solid community following this approach over the past 3 years. we're very tight-knit as a result.

                That is not the life I want for myself.

                no worries, it's not for everyone.

              • ElHexo
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      • WhatWouldKarlDo@lemmygrad.ml
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        1 year ago

        I think it's in the same vein as all the handwave-y claims as the bigotry and hate that's present on hexbear and lemmygrad. Nobody ever links a post, it's just an oft repeated fable that somehow becomes "truth". (Yes, I realise the irony in not linking to a post here, but I'm lazy and I'm sure you've seen them)

          • WhatWouldKarlDo@lemmygrad.ml
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            1 year ago

            I read a few pages of it just now. Mostly anti-communist nonsense, then the site stopped loading. Oh well, it was painful to read anyway.

      • HornyOnMain
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        1 year ago

        Early on hexbear really came out swinging and users were basically dunking on people left right and centre in lemmy.ml worldnews so that liberals would post something dumb, be prodded slightly by one or two users, then say something incredibly bad and have several hexbears dunk on them, then because of how active sort works their comments would be pushed higher up in the thread as would the thread into people's feeds and then they'd get absolutely swarmed at that point.

      • Awoo [she/her]
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        1 year ago

        The only people with bad experiences of hexbear are bigots and ideologically committed neoliberals.

      • usa_suxxx [they/them]
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        1 year ago

        If I had to be nice, I would say that a lot of new Lemmy users have reddit brain and approach using Lemmy like reddit. A constant game of treating your fellow posters as opponents and trying to embarrass them. HexBear early on also had to work on eliminating this mentality

      • EmmaGoldman [she/her, comrade/them]M
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        1 year ago

        Just as a clarification, our hatred of liberals is not the same as that of right-wingers. We hate capitalist ideology, not "wokeness" or something nonsensical like that. We are the exact people conservatives are trying to shit on when they say that.

        • Frank [he/him, he/him]
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          1 year ago

          Boy howdy. I'm still changing how I speak, what, six years in to the great hexbear experience? I've mostly stopped using "stupid" and i'm trying to replace mental health words as insults as much as possible.

    • keepcarrot [she/her]
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      1 year ago

      I do wonder what they think is the appropriate response to being called a bot or whatever is