This isnt a crisis post btw, I have care scheduled very soon
I highly suspect i have BPD and i just want to know if it ever gets better or easier to live with? 4 days ago i felt stable and now I'm back to completely losing my mind and cant reel it back in
Not even sure whats real or not about my emotions at this point other than being trans
I have a friend who has it and they've been managing especially after starting DBT. It doesn't seem like it was easy at the start, mental health sucks :(
What is, err, BPD?
I think I may know what you're talking about though...
How has dating been for you if i can ask? Im stuck in this place where i am starved for touch and emotional intimacy but actually trying to date causes me to go totally out of control
I don't, but I do want to say that my friend with BPD isn't any more or less of a pain in the ass than my friends who don't have borderline and the dehumanization of people with BPD concerns me.
In my long mental health journey, I was diagnosed at first with BPD when I was around 20 years old, mostly because (I suspect) I was mutilating, had feeling of emptiness/death and was kinda having "clivage" in my relationship.(Where I was super into someone until I had my fill then vanished from the surface of the earth.)
I read a lot on it, took note of when some behaviors happened and practiced some kind of self-crit. But mostly, aging dulled the strongest feeling.
Also later, I've been diagnosed as Bipolar, which I think fits better overall. As what I've read on it. DBT works wonder for BPD as it was first developed for that trouble I believe.
my friend w BPD manages it very well. they go to therapy and do DBT. i saw you asking abt dating further down the thread. my friend holds relationships well but they keep going back to this horrible, emotionally abusive guy. please dont put up w that shit, you deserve better and there are plenty of ppl who would love to be with you :) ik i dont know u but ur on hexbear so u must be at least a little based
best of luck
I am not in any relationship rn really but thank you for the support if i was
Life got better for me after years of therapy and a prescription for lamotrigine. The constant mood swings are still there, but they're not as severe (that's the lamotrigine) and I can usually bring myself back down to baseline before doing anything stupid (that's the therapy).
Thank you for the kind words. Thankfully my friends are very supportive. I would very much like to know what therapy specifically for bpd looks like, if you had any insight
Thank you for the in depth reply. Based on a few of the replies it sounds like i should be looking for DBT. Ive done regular talk therapy before. I dont really know the difference
Ah, a more structured program does seem like itd be very helpful as i have adhd as well. I will look into that
My girlfriend is diagnosed with BPD, and I've learned some stuff about it as a result. The main thing you should know is that therapy can really help with BPD. My understanding is that many people with BPD can be treated with just therapy and no meds, and generally there is a high success rate.
My girlfriend started therapy before we met, but from what she has told me she is doing a lot better as a result. A lot of time, people will share awful stories about relationships where on partner has BPD, but ours hasn't been like that at all. I think we're closer because of the way that she has practiced self awareness, and also because she is very sensitive to how I am feeling. It's honestly wonderful to have someone care about me like that. I do need to reassure her sometimes that she hasn't done anything wrong, and I won't leave or anything, but it's not hard to do that because I really like her.
What specifically are you losing your mind about?
My previous therapist wasn't qualified to diagnose me but they and an ex with BPD both said I have some symptoms. Particularly splitting on people a lot and a completely lack of trust and security in my interpersonal relationships
I've adjusted to living with mine. I think I'm handling it better even though it hasn't actually gotten better. It sucks that I generally can't really form very deep or long connections and 99% of all friends ever only last 1-2 years. Thankfully I keep making new friends to cycle through
Dating healthily is impossible for me though I'm ngl
Some of the same stuff, struggling to form deep connections while craving a deeper emotional intimacy. Like i cant reciprocate almost. But currently i also developed a crush on someone super fast after one date and am spiraling out of control again. I guess i'm just afraid of being alone all my life
Everybody is scared of being alone. That's probably the most valid human emotion there is
The best support I know how to give is that I understand your struggle with spiraling out of control so much when it comes to a romantic relationship. You're not alone in this one
I've been seeing somebody recently and I am filled with the worst anxiety I've had for years until they respond to me. Then all of a sudden everything is perfectly fine for a few hours. I have 0 security and trust and I can already tell this is not gonna last very long because of me
I've been seeing somebody recently and I am filled with the worst anxiety I've had for years until they respond to me. Then all of a sudden everything is perfectly fine for a few hours. I have 0 security and trust and I can already tell this is not gonna last very long because of me
I feel so seen rn
But also, unrelated to dating
cw: discussion of suicide
I got really drunk and couldnt handle my emotions and begged a very close friend of mine to take my life. Feels like im just a parasite on the people around me and their emotions. I'm like a happiness vampire
If they're a very close friend I'm sure you have lots to offer them that has made you two become that close
But definitely therapy in case they may get overwhelmed in the future. I've lost a few friends during a period where my then therapist was awful and unhelpful so I leaned on my friends too much
I hope so. They are a very kind person and very dear to me.
Yeah. Therapy is a major priority for me rn. Its been tough finding a therapist that takes my insurance and treats my issues and is close enough for me to get to regularly
