Hey, just want to say I contributed to that thread and I'm sorry have made you anxious. I think everyone else here is right and thats not "funny pills change your sexuality" and its more that being your unrepressed self helps you explore new possibilities. I got told this silly thing 15 years ago about the meds and I didn't really critically examine it until today.

I know its a bit late for me to respond to this now, but I hope you're feeling better. And for what its worth, I have anxieties about my feelings towards someone i care about changing too sometimes and don't have great answers other than knowing that the fact that I worry about that makes it clear that I really do care about their well-being, even if the anxiety can be disruptive.

(I hope this isn't too presumptuous) I hope you feel better.

this is one of the worst bits of misinformation imo. hrt can't shift sexuality, discovering more about yourself can, but it sounds like you've done a lot of thinking on that already. I wouldn't worry

Its very unlikely yeah. I am personally of the opinion sexuality shifts are just people removing repressed stuff. If you are already certain you're attracted to your wife I don't think that will change. Possible you might be more open to attraction to men. But it won't ungay you, I know plenty of trans lesbians.

Personally I found myself more attracted to the people I'm attracted to after transitioning. It feels way more visceral. Like when I look at my bf I can feel how much I like him in my neck and in my stomach.

I wouldn't get hung up on it. I think its a couple things, a few people are dealing with comphet as women/enbys now whereas before they didn't feel the compulsory part as hard because hegemonic society said they were "men" and some are finding out after cracking their eggs and doing HRT they were actually bi the whole time (like very very few people are, like, Kinsey style pure hetero/gay) and finally dealing with dysphoria and seeing sex and gender crack open like that means they can come to terms with "hey, I did like boys the whole time, I just never really realized."

i can almost guarantee that won't happen. you love your wife, you are attracted to your wife, you're not doing a flavor of comphet that you will transition out of. even if HRT does that for you, you can just stop whenever you want

I don't think it will actually shift anything. It's more like it highlights things that people may not have realized were there before. For me, I've always known that I've wanted a feminine presence in a relationship. This naturally meant I was straight, and I assumed I would exclusively be a lesbian after transition. However, I've realized that I could play the role of the feminine presence, that is now me, so while I would say that I like masculinity now as well, that doesn't mean my love for femininity and androgyny have gone away. Being able to change what role I play in a relationship has changed how I see relationships, and even then, this is all theory. I have no praxis to speak of, I don't know how well ANY of these claims would hold up in a real relationship, because honestly I could be ace (more likely) or aroace (less likely) and just want some close friends (which I've never really had), I have literally no clue, and I haven't gotten to put my thoughts into praxis yet.

If you are attracted to your wife, you will still be attracted to your wife, especially if you are satisfied with the relationship. If you realize you might like other people as well, that may have already been there, but I don't think it would change how you see your wife. Don't let this stop you from trying E, and if it was doing things you didn't like, you could always just stop it. Also, I don't know if it was the E that necessarily did it, but me beginning to realize dynamics between the masculinity of others and the femininity of myself. Just adding that in there, because I feel like what happened with me would have happened with or without HRT.