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  • Awoo [she/her]
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    19 hours ago

    They stopped using sexting ages ago and call it ERP (erotic roleplay) now. Sorry grandpa.

    • rtstragedy [she/her]
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      18 hours ago

      erp sounds like my reaction to accidentally walking in on the wrong chatroom, so i guess it's a fitting acronym

        • Majestic@lemmy.ml
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          13 hours ago

          pushes up glasses and clears throat (rant, sorry but not sorry)

          Actually proper ERP requires some amount of set-up (whether character sheets that both look at or a short discussion or both), the conceit that people are playing characters (sometimes even in third person) whereas cybering is kind of spontaneous and first person, based purely around the direct imagination of things being done to you the person and you doing things to the person you're typing at and rarely gets above a couple sentences per reply and doesn't tend to take place outside of the immediate realm of the possible such as one party's home or some other mundane and immediately accessible location.

          Sexting IMO is just cybering with the added strong likelihood that media (visual and/or audio) of one or both parties is exchanged during the act to further it and the strong likelihood that both parties know each other in real life.

          The difference between erotic roleplay and cybering is like the difference between your partner just coming up to you and starting to stroke your thigh while touching themselves and both of you agreeing an hour ahead of time to a pirate-themed dress-up occasion where you put effort into speaking like one between dirty talk and maybe use a prop or two before getting to the sex while remaining in-character.

          In some cases I'd argue it's even more abstracted as not all people ERP purely for the purpose of immediate/imminent sexual gratification or amusement (some use it for practice writing for instance or to explore some kink or concept like a collaborative 2-person romance novel whereas cybering is pretty shallow and let's be honest focused on the immediate sexual act and fulfillment without much consideration to anything else)

          A lot of people who talk of ERP are doing laughably disguised cybering.

          -signed, a frustrated roleplayer tired of people who think "I put on my robe and wizard hat, I stroke your thigh, you moan" is the same as actual roleplay (even of the erotic variety). There are people who ERP to get off no doubt, it's quite common I'm sure but it is just the same a writing and creative roleplay endeavor whereas there's little creative thinking or ROLE-playing behind writing how you're pumping and going for broke with someone without context, story, setting outside of the reality you inhabit and as in your head yourself not a character. You're role-playing in that situation in the same way you're acting when you behave as yourself with others, you're acting as yourself so no one could really call it that or call you an actor of any skill or suppose you doing it lends itself to furthering your acting ability.

  • autismdragon [he/him, they/them]
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    20 hours ago

    Yes and I also remember that it was considered kind of a weird thing to do rather than something everyone does.

    • UlyssesT [he/him]
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      20 hours ago

      Furries went from pariah status to "these are the people keeping the internet functioning" status where only the moldiest chuds keep pouting about their existence, too.

      • ihaveibs [he/him]
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        20 hours ago

        They kinda represent the last vestige of the wild west Internet now that I think about it

    • Frogmanfromlake [none/use name]
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      20 hours ago

      You’re right. I’m so used to it being normalized that I forgot there was a time when people got made fun of for doing it.

      • aaaaaaadjsf [he/him, comrade/them]
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        19 hours ago

        That and Bluetooth headpieces got mocked endlessly during the 2000s. Now everyone is wearing some kind of airpod style earbud with a buit in mic and Snapchating all kinds of pictures.

  • AmericaDeserved711 [any]
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    19 hours ago

    I feel like cybering is something you did with strangers on the internet and sexting is done with people you know and possibly have sex with IRL. but what do I know, I've never done either

    feels weird to call it "sexting" if it's over discord or something and not SMS. but I guess nobody says "cybering" anymore so idk what it's called

    • dannoffs [he/him]
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      22 hours ago

      AFK mom needs phone.

      ~♫Save me from the nothing I've become♫~

    • came_apart_at_Kmart [he/him, comrade/them]
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      19 hours ago

      23/m/cali ne1 want 2 cyber press 11

      ...

      there's a show in Hulu with Maya Erskine and somebody else called PEN15 which is incredible all around as a comedy capturing the awkward stage of early adolescence, but also specifically in the early dialup internet era. it unlocked some very cringey memories in me I had buried, but is so funny it's worth it.

      there's a whole episode on AIM that is hysterical and the way they portray themselves and the absurdity of peer groups at that age is nothing short of true genius.

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        21 hours ago

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      • eldavi@lemmy.ml
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        17 hours ago

        i used to wonder why anyone cared if there were any women in the chat rooms; it should have been the first clue that i wasn't straight. lol

  • Acute_Engles [he/him, any]
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    18 hours ago

    I used to cyber on cokemusic which was the cocacola branded clone of habbo hotel with a crappy digital audio workstation built in

    • SSJMarx@lemm.ee
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      18 hours ago

      That's a nostalgic memory lmao. I remember telling people that I was gonna make my real house look exactly like my Coke House when I grew up.

      • Acute_Engles [he/him, any]
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        17 hours ago

        Waiting in line in the room called "ONLY THUMBS UP" to play your awful sample track and get that sweet currency

  • blame [they/them]
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    21 hours ago

    my friends sister got caught talking to some dude name longshlong69 or some shit lkke that at a 3rd friends house when we were about 14 lmao. the 3rd friends dad loved telling that story, was hilarious to him.

  • hamid 🏴@vegantheoryclub.org
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    20 hours ago

    Haha yeah, imagine my surprised when I was asked if I did cyber at work only to later realize they were talking about cyber security insurance.

  • SSJMarx@lemm.ee
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    18 hours ago

    Been there, done that, roleplayed a Twi'Lek Jedi who was looking for an emotional haven from her demanding Master and found it in a sketchy bar in Coruscant's Lower City.

  • aaaaaaadjsf [he/him, comrade/them]
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    19 hours ago

    Ahhh yes back in the 2000s. They also advertised all the weird hotline numbers during the late night advert slots.

        • SorosFootSoldier [he/him, they/them]
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          22 hours ago

          When I discovered porn on the webzone via a friend it ended a long crusade we used to have scouring the woods for porno magazines.

          • Thallo [love/loves]
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            20 hours ago

            It's so fucking funny to me that searching the woods for porn mags is an experience so many kids had

          • dannoffs [he/him]
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            21 hours ago

            I'm a desert boy, I had to discover porn the modern way, via hours of unsupervised internet access starting at 12yo.

  • corgiwithalaptop [any, love/loves]M
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    21 hours ago

    I admit that I had more fun with it than I should have as a kid, and still get down sometimes with the modern equivalent.