• Comp4 [she/her]
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    4 months ago

    Mind you, it does work for some people to have different political views and still have a decent relationship. I just think if that's a problem for you, you should address it pretty early on. Just be straightforward and say something like, 'Hey, I hate taxes, love guns, and am a freedom-loving patriot. There are women like Sarah Palin and Lauren Boebert out there, so even if you are a rightwinger there is hope (at least in that regard).

    Thinking about it, it's pretty common for right-wingers to hide their power level because they are afraid of even the slightest pushback. When frankly, unless you are a literal fascist, you can do just fine in most situations, jobs, etc.

    Considering my political views are somewhere between the Joker and Posadas, I do have to be "somewhat" flexible with the politics of my partner.

    • Nationalgoatism [any]
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      4 months ago

      Mind you, it does work for some people to have different political views and still have a decent relationship.

      My partner is an anarchist for crying out loud and we make things work.

      • CommunistCuddlefish [she/her]
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        4 months ago

        I too am in a cross-religious relationship. A certain amount of political diversity is fine so long as the other partner isn't any flavor of fascist.

    • Dolores [love/loves]
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      4 months ago

      I hate taxes

      i read texas here and was wondering why the first point was based sicko-wistful

      • Tabitha ☢️[she/her]
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        4 months ago

        I knew a kid who thought he was better than everyone else because he was "from texas" and nobody cared because we were fourth graders over 1000 miles away from texas.

        • Dolores [love/loves]
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          4 months ago

          under my regime the texian will at last be compelled to shut the fuck up how-compelling

          • barrbaric [he/him]
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            4 months ago

            Splitting texas into 20 smaller states to destroy their culture of being annoying.

    • MaoTheLawn [any, any]
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      4 months ago
      • Considering my political views are somewhere between the Joker and Posadas, I do have to be "somewhat" flexible with the politics of my partner.

      tagline please

  • Łumało [he/him]@lemmygrad.ml
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    4 months ago

    Me but I'm a communist living in Poland and even suggesting abortion rights gives you side eyes. :^)

    I love this place

    spoiler

    I really don't.

    • SpiderFarmer [he/him]
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      4 months ago

      Yeah, I wanted to visit my grandpa's home country, but I guess there's a reason he left after fighting the nazis.

    • Mokey [none/use name]
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      4 months ago

      i've developed some really negative feelings towards eastern european ex-pats due to how many of them are bigoted fascists

      • Mokey [none/use name]
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        4 months ago

        why the fuck does anyone hate gay people its so fucking stupid and i hate that this tiny group of people has to suffer for literally no reason and deal with the most 'im not a traumatized small minded person' douchebags ever. let gay people be gay ffs

      • Seasonal_Peace [he/him]
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        4 months ago

        Why is it like that? I know two "ex-pats" from serbia that are exactly like that.

        • barrbaric [he/him]
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          4 months ago

          Rich enough to move to the US in the former eastern bloc means it's a lot of petit bourg.

          • Seasonal_Peace [he/him]
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            4 months ago

            Don't worry, my wife is serbian. Although I've had a few less-than-perfect experiences, I still have a deep love for the serbian people. Хвала ти, друже. stalin-heart

      • Łumało [he/him]@lemmygrad.ml
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        4 months ago

        If someone here tells me that they came back from America or wish to emigrate to America, nine point mine times out of ten, they're a fucking piece a shit. There is no worse Pole, than the one who left for the west.

        • Mokey [none/use name]
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          4 months ago

          Im so tired of communism bad from the guy who hates gay ppl and is super toxic everything

  • nothx [he/him]
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    4 months ago

    Not weird at all, this is an extremely common marriage dynamic. Many people especially from earlier generations (genx and older) took a very apolitical stance when it came to finding a partner. Some of it is the privilege they enjoy where politics doesn’t directly affect them, some of it is the submissive wife trope where her sociopolitical opinions aren’t important and she is just expected to fall in line behind the man.

    • Greenleaf [he/him]
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      4 months ago

      There was a whole thing when I was younger about celebrity couples where one was a democrat and the other was a republican, and the message was “see they can make it work”.

      Leaving out just how closely aligned their politics actually are given their class position, the political party is just window dressing.

      • nothx [he/him]
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        4 months ago

        Yea, I definitely remember that. It was a whole gotcha moment that I didn’t realize until much much later was just propaganda.

    • WafflesTasteGood [he/him]
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      4 months ago

      Also a lot of "cant have sex out of wedlock or else maw maw gets big mad" and these guys have no clue how to use birth control so they can't even pretend to be celibate when their partner ends up pregnant.

      • nothx [he/him]
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        4 months ago

        Yeah there is also plenty of that. As well as general sunk-cost fallacy.

    • queermunist she/her@lemmy.ml
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      4 months ago

      Yeah that's what stood out to me: the relationship didn't fail because you have different political views, it failed because it was built on deceit!

      • anarchoilluminati [comrade/them]
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        4 months ago

        I don't think they'll ever be able to comprehend that.

        removed wife bad.

        Edit: Haha Word was a nationalist Feminist that men hate.

  • Kuori [she/her]
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    4 months ago

    lying about your conservative politics to date women should count as some kind of assault

    they wouldn't have married you if they knew you didn't see them as people (i know some would, but shhh)

    • ashinadash [she/her]
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      4 months ago

      Conservative Panic Defense, where women don't get charged with murder if they killed a guy after finding out he's a rightwinger sicko-wistful

  • MaoTheLawn [any, any]
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    4 months ago

    My partner is an intelligent well-meaning liberal (in comparison to me, a terrible, ill-hearted Leninist).

    Political violence is our only major disagreement.

    She isn't a fan of the fact that if I ever get a terminal disease then it might be adventure-time for me.

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    • SuperZutsuki [they/them]
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      4 months ago

      The bar is in hell and all of society expects women to be subservient and accept constant abuse. It's nearly impossible to live alone unless you're rich and many give in to have a small amount of financial comfort

    • Kuori [she/her]
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      4 months ago

      i just said this the other day but it's either that or they die alone

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    2 months ago

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    • Pili [any, any]
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      4 months ago

      ML and anarchist at least share the same values. Democrats and republican, even though they are both shitlibs, are doomed to annoy each other all the time.

      • HelltakerHomosexual [she/her, comrade/them]
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        4 months ago

        tbh theory wise and methods wise they are in complete combat, but that just means two organizations of anarchist and ML can't work together permanently, not two people/

  • Frank [he/him, he/him]
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    4 months ago

    Constantly innovating brave new ways to be diverse. (that was supposed to be divorced)

  • Pentacat [he/him]
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    4 months ago

    I only know how to translate a little bit of Chud, but I think Sean wants to fuck the guy he’s replying to.

  • BodyBySisyphus [he/him]
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    4 months ago

    My partner and I started out with similar politics but have gradually stopped talking about it as I've veered leftward. She wasn't super interested in hearing about the case for voting uncommitted in the primary. I've been wondering about the long term implications but feel like she might be receptive to communism after this shit show of an election

    • JoeByeThen [he/him, they/them]
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      4 months ago

      Don't just spring it on her. Gotta get her with good communist propaganda. Watch Damnation, any thing by Boots Riley, then Parenti and Chill.

    • Pandantic [they/them]@midwest.social
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      4 months ago

      I’ve had a similar situation with my SO. Been propagandizing them - pointing out the flaws in the system, pointing out when capitalism is the cause of their ills - and, while they agree with me on all my points, they still can’t get past the “it’s the only system that has worked” mentality. I need to get stronger in those cases so I can argue the point.

      • BodyBySisyphus [he/him]
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        4 months ago

        My challenge has been getting past "We have to work with what we have, even if it sucks"

        • ShimmeringKoi [comrade/them]
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          4 months ago

          That's where I find getting subjective works better. "Why do you think that? Where did you first hear it, and from who? What would have to happen to change your mind?"

  • SorosFootSoldier [he/him, they/them]
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    4 months ago

    What's more pathetic, guys like this going on twitter to brag about their wives leaving them because they are red-pilled, or guys who attend male "boot camps" to get into shape so their wife will come back and let them see the kids?

        • barrbaric [he/him]
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          4 months ago

          Look, I may be sad and unhealthy, but I would never look for emotional support online!