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I really should get some thigh highs now that winter is approaching
I actually had some because I like the idea of warm legs and not having so much cloth bunched up around my ankle but they do make my legs look rather feminine
Hath thou considered adding pronouns to engage with additional questions?
Wow, you think I will voluntarily put myself on the cis list to be marked for execution when Commiela steals the election?
Self-reporting cisness to the nearest political comissar is mandatory, failure to comply may be weighed against you.
Its ok man, i listed myself as cis in the last survey and nothing hap
yes, then you'll be revived back up by juche necromancy, then executed again
And then you'll be revived again and realize how wise it is to be trans 🙌
It is Friday October 4th 2024 and Hexbear is purging me again.
Fuck it. Whatever helps me leave this pitiful existence faster. I'm super mega extra cis if that bumps me up in the list.
They'll put us all on high-speed trains straight to the forced feminisation camps!
I have prepared myself to be ex(cis)ed for the good of my trans comrades
The Gender SWAT team is on its way to your house the moment you click yes
It’s out of scope for this survey, but it would be interesting to see cis male responses to personal questions regarding gender, sexuality, self-worth related to gendered expectations, and a lot of other stuff. I think just asking the questions could be healthy for a lot of people, and then seeing the results could be healthy too, depending.
I'd be down for that, would be interesting and healthy. Introspection helped me realize I am pan, not cishet like I thought I was for far too long
Who knew cishet guys normally don't fantasize about sex with men? Not this dumbass
Yeah, this is a great example! Part of the reason why I’d be interested in this is that I’m not sure anyone is 100% completely cishet. I suspect everyone is at least a little bit queer, even if they lean heavily towards certain cishet preferences, and I think that queerness (even if it’s just a sliver) is probably hiding underneath some heavy repression. I’d be curious to know if I’m onto something or if it’s just wishful thinking on my part.
That pretty much describes my experience and thoughts exactly, was a bit excited to write "pan" instead of "het" on the questionaire until I saw it was mainly about gender, haha.
Might just be me, but gender is the same way. I am 90% cis, like 75% het, though I don't really consider myself genderqueer and thinking of myself as queer in general feels like stolen valor since I never acted on it, and is a recent realization so it doesn't feel "natural" even if it was very explanatory for me.
That's why I support introspection, I certainly need more myself. This stuff is complicated and should be confronted more.
god, things like this always confuse me. like yes i'm a cis woman, but i use he/him/she/her or hy/hym pronouns when i can (read: online or dnd), crossdress 24/7, have visable facial hair, and honestly i'd go on testosterone if it were free. i was looking at binders recently (because i had them recommended as a heavy duty sports bra and also the silhouettes are just nicer) and the only reason i didn't get one was that my measurements are weird. a lot of my mates keep saying that i should just become a man already and are "waiting for the gender drop" and new people assume i'm already transmasc or nb.
like despite the fact that i'm cis, i am apparently trans by a LOT of people's definitions. idk how i feel about that. it feels like people are trying to limit what woman are and are not allowed to be. there is NOTHING wrong with women who look like me or go into my field or reject the beauty industry or crossdress or date women or anything else. there isn't even anything """un-womanly""" about us, we just don't dignifiy the sexist society in which we live with a response.
but then again, the people who assume i'm trans or nb don't think for a second that they're reinforcing misogynistic ideas about womanhood, they're just trying to be nice
so yeah. idk. i am not by defintion trans in the slightest, but in practice it always seems like i am. sorry if i invalidated the results by classing myself as cis instead of "?????????" lol. i guess theres a reason people treat butches as trans-adjacent
(BUT hexbear is one of the only place i've ever got the idea i can say any thing remotely like this and not get instantly clowned on, so shout out to our trans comrades for making a space thats also cool with miscellaneous freaks lol)
There was a cis woman with a very full, luxurious beard who had a social media presence a while back and among other things she'd talk about what it was like being a woman with a beard and how that challenged and completely upended some people's notions of gender and sex.
And this also makes me think of an interview I saw with an Afghani cis man who didn't grow a beard and would wear a prosthetic beard to keep the Taliban fashion police off his back.
Folks do be policing gender, even when they're informed and trying to be supportive and well meaning.
I think there are people in very similar circumstance who label themselves broadly as trans masc but also lots who don't.
Second Stone Butch Blues if you didn't already read that. Also coming to mind would be Ivan Coyote who is a great performer so youtube is recommended. I recall Hannah Gatsby mentioning a very similar experience in their ?second netflix special.
In terms of non-famous people, I feel that we all know people like this in our lives. There are lots of cis women who are non-conformists to femininity in many ways. It's been deeply explored in sub-cultural spaces like by butch lesbians and radical feminsits, but also there are many heterosexual types who area doing their things without a lot of pomp.
Caution is warranted because it is also a way of leading into really vile anti-trans stuff of people way over-extrapolating from their own experience. Don't get recruited into that. It's a great position from which to be a trans ally.
It's why the term "gender diverse" is used instead of trans, because it casts a much wider net. It acknowledges that people are existing in infinite varieties without being prescriptive.
I'll check out your reccomendations, thank you. I swear I have a copy of Stone Butch Blues on a hard drive somewhere.
I know people have different styles of reading, but I think it's a better read in paperback if you can scrounge up a library copy or something.
ia of course has it https://archive.org/details/stonebutchbluesn0000fein in their login-required zone
you could go back and change it to a maybe if you want to answer the rest of the questions. i do think its interesting you like hy/hym pronouns online only though, why is that? there are groups that can help you get on T, i could refer you to some. totally recommend reading Stone Butch Blues by Leslie Feinberg, its a story that touches on similar vibes, though giant cw though theres a lot of trauma in it
regardless, thats valid
Kinda curious why you feel the attachment to the woman label. Imo, gender only exists to be restrictive, so I don't want anything to do with it. But I'm amab - there's no reason for camaraderie there.
Did you read Stone Butch Blues or anything epse by Leslie Feinberg? You might get a kick out if it. Leslie Feinberg and them all had a much less stringent definition of transness than the one we seem to have developed all this time later, you just had to break out of or push the boundaries of the culturally defined hegemonic strict binary in some way - Feinberg counted butch lesbians as being under the umbrella of transgender or cis women who passed as men for safety/work, for example. If you don't vibe with the label you don't have to take it, it's definitely changed meanings from that much wider umbrella.
Edit: lol everyone else suggested Stone Butch Blues already, sorry
I see your point 100%, and tbh reading Judith Butler's work on gender and performance really helped me understand better what it means to be gender non-conforming in today's world, ideas-wise at least.
it feels like people are trying to limit what woman are and are not allowed to be.
I'm also cis woman, half feminine, half tomboyish and the worst part, I act like a kid. People gave up telling me what is "real" woman or how she behaves or what she needs to do in order to be a true woman, but I get a lot of "grow up". I don't want to grow up and as I get older, I know I'm fitting my body less and less. Only when I feel feminine I'm comfortable with my age and the way I look. But a child in me wants to jump, show when she's happy, sad, dance, giggle... Imagine a forty year old woman talking to flowers on the road. That's me. You have no idea how people are restricting me. Calling me crazy, stupid. Even online. When I say I'm 40 I get a lot "you talk like an edgy teen" and I know it's an insult. I try not to get insulted. And with men, it's so strange. They all like every aspect of my character, but me being childish is inconvenient to them. Or when I refuse to be stereotypical woman, especially if they aren't capable of playing their own masculine role. And as much as I feel awesome in sexy outfit, I hate doing it for men's satisfaction because it's their vision of feminine.
It's all just odd.
Most of the time I'm attacked and questioned by traditional people. I don't know why are they so uncomfortable with nonconformism and when things don't fit their learned patterns. It's not like they're all alone on this planet and that they're the rule, although they are a norm.
I saw few women like you and honestly I don't know what the fuck is wrong with looking like you. Do we all have to look like virgins from males' imagination (fuck you, Petrarca and all those stupid poets and philosophers and prophets who made their definition of us by making us their objects of lust and desire 🫵)? And when people comment... Like why do you care?
Sorry, I'm stoned, I'm just typing my incoherent thoughts.
me checking both "Binary" and "Non-Binary" because I'm an enby but I'm also literally just a girl
I actually did exactly the same thing! I'm still figuring myself out tbh
after you realized you were trans/gender diverse, how long did it take for you to begin to act on it?
the earliest answer is less than a year? I was doing shit about it after like a week
That was a hard one for me because the realization was so gradual and it took me years to fully integrate the belief that I was trans into my conscious mind even though it was sitting there
i mean, i knew i hated being cis when i was 14. I just very stubbornly refused to do anything about it
·2 months agoSame, also 14. But I actually did something about it, I shaved my legs, I wore thigh highs, other shit I'm forgetting rn? but I didn't really integrate the belief that I was trans until just these last months.
sounds nicer than pouring myself a big bowl of Dysphori-O's in the morning and lying to myself that I like it
I think I'm trans, but I don't think I want to do anything about it. I've known for like 10 years, but I was in denial about it for quite a while. I don't have any dysphoria, though.
Same for me too. It had been slowly building up for awhile, but once I fully realized, I had to do something quick. I’m relatively old so I can’t afford to wait any longer. I ordered DIY right away and started injecting that magical girl juice weekly.
yeah within a month i was at the front desk of my local planned parenthood sweating bullets on a 40 degree F day lmao
Remember to respond even if your cis
Im gonna be mad if this isnt a ploy to identify and ban all cis users
I think the latter part of this survey is just bad.
- Asking "at what age did you begin transition?" before any other timeline questions puts the importance and emphasis on actions taken instead of starting with self acceptance. This feels like framing I'd see from people that are less knowledgeable of the trans experience as a whole, which I know isn't the case of the people who put this together.
- The bigger issue is the follow up question, "after you realized you were trans/gender diverse, how long did it take for you to begin to act on it?" The entire self acceptance moment of realizing you were trans is an after thought to "how long did it take to do something about it?" At no point are we asked about the first big moment in someone's transition, only relative to what many people wrongly assume is the start of a transition.
The combination of these questions in this order and nothing about the beginning of the journey is really unfortunate. I filled out the survey up until that point, but didn't feel like continuing after that. I know there's only so much that can be asked, but I don't think the way this was formatted was an issue with not having enough room for questions or overloading a survey.
Asking "at what age did you begin transition?" before any other timeline questions puts the importance and emphasis on actions taken instead of starting with self acceptance. This feels like framing I'd see from people that are less knowledgeable of the trans experience as a whole, which I know isn't the case of the people who put this together.
imo beginning transition is a process, yeah. and it can be different per person. some people have a harder start and some people have a fuzzier start (and is why i put an age range). thing is someone wanted to see what people said to this question so i tried to phrase it as well as possible, i felt like the survey was kinda long already and alternatives to this question means writing like 3 or so extra questions i think
i felt like the survey was kinda long already and alternatives to this question means writing like 3 or so extra questions i think
It's not nearly long enough. It should be 50 questions minimum
gender is a test and if you get it wrong you will not gain entry into college
Some of the mismash of questions might be more a result of requests by other users and the order may simply be in order they were requested or something like that. I wouldn't put to much analysis into that kind of thing.
They could simply transition and join us in the gender mines!
Okay, that's a hundred votes for Hillary Clinton from me.
BUT I WAS TOLD THAT'S WHERE GIRLS GO TO GET MORE KNOWLEDGE!!!
I’m cis